It has nothing to do with your outer appearance.
Often we relate confidence with the way we look. It’s okay to feel like that sometimes, but it’s not wise to beat yourself every day to look a certain way to prove your worth to people. We always portray ourselves in the way we dress and how we present ourselves with money, job, house, and car and although these materialistic factors sometimes contribute to our overall confidence. It’s not what drives it. Appearance is just another addition, but the core of confidence comes from within. Here are five ways you can help to improve your confidence level and bring yourself forward with flare and a sense of self-assurance.
1. Live to please yourself, not others. Easier said than done, but living your life on your own terms is such a confidence booster. When we value ourselves and become more self-aware and take charge of our life decisions, we take control over some aspects of our lives. Mastering the art of spending time to know yourself plays a huge role in that. Thinking about what truly matters can help you shed extra weight from your shoulders and that can give you a new direction to elevate yourself. When you do that, you will notice a positive difference.
2. Learn to say no. How many times have you said yes to something where you know you should have said no. Whether it’s going out after a long day of work with friends, where instead you would have liked to stay in and get some rest. Or doing some work for someone who was just lazy to do it themselves because they tell you they love you. Where does that leave you? Exhausted. So say no. Or at least say no to the small stuff at first just to get in a habit of declining something when it’s not settling with you. Again, it’s about being authentic to yourself. Respecting your feeling and emotions will transform the way people treat you.
3. Speak your truth. Speak your mind even if it means you’re doing something that might cost you going against someone. We are a creature of habits so routine plays a huge part in our lives. We can’t be just making compromises all the time. Yes, it’s important, but if agreeing to something means going against your values and beliefs and reconsider your thoughts. Think and speak with outcomes in mind. If you think speaking your mind will benefit you or will be a trouble for a short time, but the results will be good and will help you, then do that.
4. Work on yourself. Set goals for yourself and work towards them. Create momentum in doing things that will help you get closer to your goal. Start with creating a plan, making sure it’s measurable, create strategies, and take daily actions to get things done, then once to complete it, celebrate your wins and set new goals. Creating your dreams into reality is hard work and requires dedication, but it also requires commitment and facing failures. No great things come with only success.
5. Practice the art of loving. Self-love is not a new concept, but some of us are still struggling to incorporate it into our lives. Once we remove all our possessions, what do we really have for ourselves? You will spend most of your time with yourself, so make sure when you look at yourself instead of finding so many errors and mistakes in yourself, you see yourself as your best friend. No one can take away your confidence once you have it. Confidence doesn’t mean pride or arrogance. It’s about acceptance and compassion towards yourself and the surrounding people. Next time you look at yourself and others, look at them through the eyes of love, with no fancy possessions or the tags they are carrying. Just see them and yourself as part of this world. Once you appreciate yourself, you will be able to do that for others too.
